{"id":254,"date":"2010-02-07T08:57:39","date_gmt":"2010-02-07T07:57:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/?p=254"},"modified":"2010-02-07T08:57:39","modified_gmt":"2010-02-07T07:57:39","slug":"namen-inte-den-har-gamla-trasan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/?p=254","title":{"rendered":"&#8221;N\u00e4men inte den h\u00e4r gamla trasan!&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Jag \u00f6var mig p\u00e5 att ta emot bekr\u00e4ftelse fr\u00e5n andra. N\u00e4r n\u00e5gon s\u00e4ger n\u00e5got trevlig om mig eller min prestation, att bara kunna s\u00e4ga tack. Men visst \u00e4r det sv\u00e5rt?<\/p>\n<p>Hur g\u00f6r du n\u00e4r du f\u00e5r en komplimang?<br \/>\n&#8211; Argumenterar emot\u00a0 &#8221;Nej den h\u00e4r gamla trasan&#8230;&#8221;<br \/>\n&#8211; K\u00e4nner behov att att s\u00e4ga n\u00e5got sn\u00e4llt tillbaka &#8221;Men du har v\u00e4l ocks\u00e5 g\u00e5tt ned i vikt!&#8221;<br \/>\n&#8211; F\u00f6rklarar &#8221;Jass\u00e5, jo jag har precis tv\u00e4ttat h\u00e5ret.&#8221;<br \/>\n&#8211; F\u00f6rkastar &#8221;Det s\u00e4ger du bara f\u00f6r att du vill vara sn\u00e4ll.&#8221;<br \/>\n&#8211; F\u00f6rnekar &#8221;Nej usch, hur kan du tycka det!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Lyssna p\u00e5 dig sj\u00e4lv n\u00e4sta g\u00e5ng n\u00e5gon s\u00e4ger n\u00e5got v\u00e4nligt om dig. Om du vrider dig som en liten mask f\u00f6r att du blir generad eller misstror den andras avsikter, d\u00e5 beh\u00f6ver du ocks\u00e5 l\u00e4ra dig att ta emot andras bekr\u00e4ftelse. Tr\u00e4na p\u00e5 att bara s\u00e4ga tack. Mer beh\u00f6vs inte.<\/p>\n<p>Vi brukar ge v\u00e5ra kursdeltagare en h\u00e4rlig \u00f6vning i bekr\u00e4ftelse. Sista tillf\u00e4llet vi m\u00f6ts i grupp, s\u00e5 l\u00e5ter vi var och en av deltagarna bli k\u00e4rleksbombade. Det g\u00e5r till s\u00e5 att var och en f\u00e5r ett papper, sedan f\u00e5r de skriva ned alla positiva komplimanger och egenskaper som resten av gruppen ger dem. De f\u00e5r inte s\u00e4ga n\u00e5got annat \u00e4n &#8221;tack&#8221;. Det brukar bli en l\u00e5ng lista p\u00e5 h\u00e4rliga positiva saker och den som bli bombad blir ofta r\u00f6d om kinderna av r\u00f6relse. Sen f\u00e5r de i l\u00e4xa att s\u00e4tta upp listan n\u00e5gonstans hemma d\u00e4r de ofta kan l\u00e4sa den.<\/p>\n<p>Alla f\u00f6rtj\u00e4nar att bli lite k\u00e4rleksbombade d\u00e5 och d\u00e5.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-255\" title=\"P\u00e5MINDA\" src=\"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/P\u00e5MINDA-300x157.jpg\" alt=\"P\u00e5MINDA\" width=\"300\" height=\"157\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/P\u00e5MINDA-300x157.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/P\u00e5MINDA.JPG 393w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n\n<!-- Facebook Like Button v1.9.6 BEGIN [http:\/\/blog.bottomlessinc.com] -->\n<iframe src=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/like.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mariahelander.se%2F%3Fp%3D254&amp;layout=standard&amp;show_faces=false&amp;width=450&amp;action=like&amp;colorscheme=light\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" allowTransparency=\"true\" style=\"border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height: 30px; align: left; margin: 2px 0px 2px 0px\"><\/iframe>\n<!-- Facebook Like Button END -->\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jag \u00f6var mig p\u00e5 att ta emot bekr\u00e4ftelse fr\u00e5n andra. N\u00e4r n\u00e5gon s\u00e4ger n\u00e5got trevlig om mig eller min prestation, att bara kunna s\u00e4ga tack. Men visst \u00e4r det sv\u00e5rt? Hur g\u00f6r du n\u00e4r du f\u00e5r en komplimang? &#8211; Argumenterar emot\u00a0 &#8221;Nej den h\u00e4r gamla trasan&#8230;&#8221; &#8211; K\u00e4nner behov att att s\u00e4ga n\u00e5got sn\u00e4llt tillbaka [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[78,48,26],"class_list":["post-254","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ovningar","tag-bekraftelse","tag-karlek","tag-tacksamhet"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/254","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=254"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/254\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":256,"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/254\/revisions\/256"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=254"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=254"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mariahelander.se\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=254"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}